How to solve bickering

[Bill Burk]

This morning I was a few minutes late getting the teenager on the way to school (late for being early, mind you, we were not late)...

In the middle of a squabble

Me: "I'm going to start moderating the conversation... From now on don't talk about bad feelings"

Teenager: "What, you're going to censor us?"

Me: "Yes"...

It only took a few seconds for the situation to degrade from bad to worse and the next thing I heard was...

Teenager: "Look what you've done now"

[BrianShaw]

... female LF photographer

Feel free to bring more into the fold (forum)... I'm quite sure that they will be welcomed and maybe then there won't be such a "gender bias". The influence of you and your fellow gender-mates might be good for all of us.

[ROL]

You don't call a child an idiot for spilling milk you laugh and offer help.

No?!? That was a corporal offence in my house. I was SPANKED!

[cosmicexplosion]

I think r Denny weighed in to much and to early on this one
It's a bit patronising

[welly]

I think r Denny weighed in to much and to early on this one
It's a bit patronising

What? Rubbish. Clearly, some people here need to have a read of Rick's list.

[ericpmoss]

[...]
6. The character flaws of people are never on-topic, but
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Well, *my* character flaws are never on-topic....

Eric "I may be missing the point" Moss

[paulr]

Rick, point taken about the zombie apocalypse.

[rdenney]

Rick, point taken about the zombie apocalypse.

I just wanted to cover all the bases, now that we know the world is not ending.

Rick "you never know" Denney

[ataim]

Stolen from another forum...

We have a rule at work:
If I say or do something that offends you, you have to tell me so I will know.

I like one of my coworker's attitude about that. "I'm going to tell you what I think. I'm going to say it plainly. If you don't like what I said, either change or don't worry about it."

He recently got in trouble for saying that a practice at a certain location was dumb. He was right, but one of the supervisors took it personally. When called on the carpet by our EVP, he defended himself. He was told he had to be more sensitive to the feelings of others. He explained that THAT was what was wrong with our organization: everybody is too sensitive. When the EVP asked how he would feel if someone was insensitive to his feelings and made him mad, his answer was very to the point. "This is where I provide for my family and that is very important to me, so I don't let myself get mad. Besides, there's nobody in this company that is smart enough to make me mad!"

This forum is kind of like going to a football game. You are here because you choose to be. My Uncle Jack used to get so upset at football games that he'd eat a whole pack of antacids! Finally, he just stopped going to football games.

IMHO, neither football games or forums are worth excess stomach acid Yall have fun and don't take this stuff too seriously

[dwross]

Feel free to bring more into the fold (forum)... I'm quite sure that they will be welcomed and maybe then there won't be such a "gender bias". The influence of you and your fellow gender-mates might be good for all of us.

Ah, but that I possessed such a super-power. Unfortunately, "jp498"'s take on the issue is probably predominate. I feel it, and I suspect most other women feel it. Believe it or not, I even understand it. Everyone needs a safe space.

But, here's the thing: Not liking Cindy Sherman shouldn't be seen as a gender slur. (I don't particularly "like" her work, but I respect its impact as art.) All I can suggest is that if someone really, honestly doesn't like Cindy Sherman's work, or any other female photographer's work, that the reasons be stated rationally, without veiled hints about the quality being related to gender. If that were the case, I don't think the poster would need worry about speaking in mixed company.