Something that needs to be remembered by all who participate in this (and most other) internet forum(s) is that the forum is international in scope. Not everybody who writes here is necessarily fluent enough, or appropriately evocative, in written speech [in english] to convey the nuances and inflections that characterize spoken language. Rarely, if ever, is anything written to insult, but churlishness does appear - take no offense. It takes a tremendous amount of skill to write in a vernacular such that you accurately convey to all readers the mood and tone of your message. (paraphrased, 'lighten up'